Your Relationship Might Just Be Damaging Your Sleep

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If you’ve been following us for a while now, you’ll know that there are lots of things that can affect your zzz’s. You’ll also know that your sleep partner could be the very reason why you can’t sleep. Apparently, there’s an additional reason why some people who sleep with their significant other can also find it difficult to get some shuteye, and it all boils down to their relationship.

According to a study published by the Social Psychological & Personality Science, people who don’t feel like their partners are responsive are more likely to have sleep issues than those who have partners who meet their needs. Responsiveness in a relationship is a way to measure whether your significant other cares for you and understands you. It also helps you feel more validated and important. People who don’t feel like their SOs are responsive to them tend to have higher levels of stress and anxiety, which can lead to sleepless nights, especially if they sleep next to each other.

A lot of people don’t easily realize that this is the very reason why they can’t sleep, as it is definitely something you realize right away. Resolving the issue can also be tricky. However, addressing it can have a huge impact on a person’s life.

Those who have loving partners tend to sleep better as well. As restorative sleep requires a sense of security and safety, feeling loved and well cared for can definitely put a person at ease and lower their stress levels. This can lead to better slumber.

If you think the reason why you can’t sleep is your partner’s inadequate amount of responsiveness, we’re not sure if a new mattress can help solve your woes. However, getting a Salem Bed can still help, because even if everything doesn’t work out, at least you have a quality and cozy place to spend your nights in.

How to Get Out of Bed on #BedWeather Days

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It’s been raining non-stop for the past few days and aside from the flooding and traffic, getting out of bed on a raining morning is one of the biggest challenges ever. The warmth and comfort of the bed is just the best alternative to battling it out on the streets, trying to stay as dry as you possibly can.

But if you need to be somewhere else, how do you force yourself to leave your bed? Here are some tips you can try to convince yourself that something else is worth leaving your bed.

1.Prepare the night before.

Prepping your things before you hit the hay will let you have a few more minutes in the bed the following morning. Decide what you want to wear the next day to lessen your worries and frustrations while you try to rush your morning routine. Have the stuff you need to bring all in one place as well so you can just grab them and go.

2. Drink a glass of water before hitting the hay or as soon as you wake up.

Drinking a glass of water before bed will force you to get out of bed in the morning as you have to rush to the CR for some relief. It’ll be hard to get comfortable again in bed once you already got out, so it could be a good way to wake yourself up.

However, if you’re the type who can’t handle fluids at night and tend to wake up during the wee hours to pee, this might not be the best idea. What you can do instead is to drink a glass of water as soon as your alarm goes off. A drink will instantly wake you up and will not let you go back to sleep, helping you get out of bed easily.

3. Place your alarm clock away from you.

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If you think you’ll be having a hard time getting yourself out of bed the next morning, take a preemptive measure and place your alarm clock away from the bed where you can’t reach it without getting out of the covers. This will instantly get you out of bed.

4. Remind yourself why you need to get up already.

There might be tons of reasons why you have to get out of bed in the morning, remind yourself of them and you’ll surely find a way to convince yourself that you can’t stay under the covers all day.

5. Reward yourself a little.
Rewarding yourself could be a great incentive for getting out of bed in the morning. It doesn’t have to be a huge thing, it can be just a nice cup of coffee from your favorite coffee shop or a nice lunch dish. This way, you’ll feel better about getting out of bed in the morning.6. Don’t let yourself reason out for staying in bed.You’ll surely struggle with yourself if you really don’t want to get out of bed, so you’ll need a stronger resolve to convince yourself that there are more important things than staying under the covers.It might be difficult to overcome your attachment to your cozy bed on #bedweather days, but if you need to be somewhere else, you have to do what you can and get yourself moving. Hopefully, these tips will get you going.

Getting Some Sleep Before a Big Day

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The day before any big occasion might fill you up with a lot of tension, anxiety, and excitement that it gets extra difficult to fall asleep. Some find themselves still up just a few hours before they have to get out of bed and prepare for the big day. This, of course, isn’t good, as you’ll most likely be running on little energy the next day and you’ll look a bit off.

So, what should you do if you’re finding it hard to fall asleep on the eve of a big day? Here are some tips you can try.

1. Make sure that everything that’s need to be done is already done before night fall. A lot of occasions, especially DIY weddings, can have a lot of last minute tasks that needs to be done right away. This, of course, can result to sacrificing sleep.

The best thing to do is to plan your event properly and weigh the pros and cons of DIYing. Sometimes it’s more cost and time effective to just pay for some things, so always consider that as well.

2. Shut everyone out by 10 pm so you can have time to wind down, relax, and ease yourself to sleep. Are friends and family coming in the day before the big event? This might mean that you’ll spend most of the night trying to catch up while prepping and trying to complete last minute tasks. This, of course, will definitely affect your sleep, as those catchup sessions can easily last all night long.

So, what should you do? Shut everyone out around your regular bedtime. You might to be quite willing to do this as it’s easy to want to spend more time with folks you haven’t seen in a while, but remember, you can always easily just chat tomorrow during your event, right?

3. Avoid caffeine after 1 pm. In addition to feeling antsy and jittery, you don’t want caffeine to keep you up ’til late, so just skip it altogether.

4. Write down all your worries. If you’re fretting that something could go wrong on the next day, write all of them down. This way, you can release the building tension inside you and you will feel like you’ve already done the first step necessary in addressing your worries. You can even use your list the following day to check if everything is in place.

5. Get a massage. If you still have time, you can also opt to get a relaxing massage the night before your major event. This will help you relax better and have an easier time falling asleep.

6. Accept that mistakes can happen. Perfectionists and worry warts tend to find the night before major occasions the worst nights of  their lives because they spend the whole evening fretting about what could go wrong and what still has to be done. If you’re one of these folks, a quick remedy might be hard to find. However, accepting that mistakes can happen during your event will help you relax and pause your worrying until the next morning.

7. Do some relaxing yoga poses. Stretching and meditating are some of the best ways to relax, so why not give it a try?

Whatever the occasion might be, you’ll need a good night’s sleep for better performance and to be in good shape for the next day. Hope we’re able to help you out in your quest to ensure a good night’s sleep on the eve of your big day with these tips.

5 Ways to Relax Before Bed Time

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Winding down is a very important bed time activity. Doing this will help you calm your senses and let you relax better so you can doze off easier. But with your hectic schedule and action-packed days, sometimes winding down is an entirely challenging task on its own. So, how do you get yourself to calm down and be ready for zzz’s? Here are some tricks you can try.

Take time for some pillow talk with your significant other.

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If you and your spouse or significant other go to bed at the same time, take a few minutes talking about anything. You can tell them what you’re worried about or detail the amusing things you saw during the day. Reconnecting with the person you love right before you fall asleep is a good way to wind down and be ready for sleep as it helps you unload your worries. Try not to get into an argument, though, as that will have the opposite effect to your goal.

Write down your worries on a journal.

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If you’re more expressive in writing, you can always opt to write down the things that you’re worried about in a journal. If you have a lot of things to do the next day and you’re often fretting about forgetting something, jotting them down will help you feel like you’ve done something to take care of your worries, letting you calm down a bit. It will also help you remind yourself of the important details you shouldn’t forget for the next day. With this, sleep will come easier to you.

Meditate.

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Meditating before bed is also a great way to get rid of your anxiety and tension that has been built up through the day. It helps you get a quiet time to yourself after a long day, letting you get in touch with yourself and be at your center again. Meditating before bed is best for those who spend their days busy with a lot of stressful tasks.

Pray

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For a lot of people, praying is key to relax and calm themselves. By spending a few minutes in prayer, you can hash out all of your worries, anxiety, sadness, and disappointments, letting you feel better after. Some also feel more spiritual by doing this regularly, allowing them to be more in touch with their faith. In many cases, you can also feel safer and more in tune with your decisions and actions by adding this to your In any case, if you’re the spiritual kind, a meaningful prayer is always the bed time routine activity you shouldn’t miss.

Cuddle

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According to experts, cuddling with a loved one releases the cuddle chemical known as the oxytocin. This hormone relieves pain and stress as well as boosts the immune system. It also helps you fall asleep faster, making cuddling the perfect bed time routine activity. Even if you just hug it out for ten minutes before turning your backs against each other to doze off, the short period of hugging will still let you enjoy a lot of health benefits.

These are just some of the easiest ways how you can relax and fall asleep better at night. Try them out tonight and start enjoying longer zzz’s.

Sharing the Bed Can Be Ruining Your Sleep

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There are tons of things and factors that can affect your sleep. One, however, is often ignored, especially since the majority of the Filipino population is used to co-sleeping. A lot of us may have shared beds with siblings, parents, relatives, significant others, pets, or roommates and found it difficult to sleep. Some brush it off and attribute their sleeping issues with a myriad of other reasons, but rarely on sharing the bed with someone else.

But what we all should know is that the very reason why you can’t catch some zzz’s might just be lying next to you.

How can your “bed-mate” affect your sleep? Here are some ways:

They snore.

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Light sleepers who share a bed with someone who snores will surely find it difficult to sleep properly. Sure, some can get used to the noise, but others won’t be able to handle it. Especially if you only occasionally share your bed with someone else, having to re-adjust every time can be a nightmare.

The solution? You can always have your bedmate checked by a physician, as snoring is typically a symptom for an ailment or an ailment in itself. You can also try rolling them on their side when they start snoring. But the best solution is still to just use earplugs and revel in the peace and quiet it can bring.

They hog the sheets.

Not all of us like to sleep tucked under the sheets, especially since our tropical nights are hot and humid. However, as the wet and cold months roll in, the night breeze can be a bit chilly, so using a blanket can give you some more comfortable sleep. The problem is, your bedmate likes to hog the sheets to themselves that you end up wide awake trying to pull and get some parts of you covered.

The solution? Get separate blankets. This way, you won’t have to play tug of war in the middle of the night that will only wake the both of you up. However, if you really want to share the blanket, get a really big one so you can still be able to fit in even if your bedmate likes to sleep like a burrito.

They like to snuggle and you don’t.

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Some people are just really malambing and like to snuggle with loved ones when they sleep. While this is cute and sweet, not a lot of people like having someone else’s arms wrapped around them as they try to catch some zzz’s. It could be because of the extra weight that will pin you down or the body heat that can get you a bit too warm for comfort. It can be because of a plethoria of other reasons, but the fact is, some people aren’t sleep snugglers and we just have to deal with it.

The solution? Talk it out. If your bed mate is a new significant other who might get offended that you don’t want to sleep in their arms, explain that you just really can’t fall asleep that way. We’re all wired differently, so some things are just like that. You can also get a body pillow for your snuggler to keep them comfortable when they sleep.

They can’t sleep easily at night.

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It doesn’t matter if they’re insomniac or a night owl, some people just can’t sleep early at night. Instead, they’ll result to watching TV, working, or playing on their devices while in bed. This can easily interrupt your sleep as whatever they’re doing can create disturbing sounds or the blue light from their device can stimulate your senses. Some people also just can’t fall asleep if someone else in the room is awake, so that can also keep you up to the wee hours until your bedmate nods off.

The solution? You can use an eye mask to get the darkness you need. You can also compromise by going to bed at different hours. This way, they’re not forced to stay in bed when they can’t sleep and you won’t be disturbed if they try to make themselves sleepy by doing something else.

They move a lot in their sleep.

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Some people sleep like a log, while others thrash, kick, and even yell when they’re asleep. It all depends on how physical they get when they’re dreaming or how comfortable they are in the bed. Others might be just having an intense dream so they get malikot, while others might not be completely comfy with your bed so they try to find a good sleeping position even while they’re asleep. Whether you’re a light sleeper or not, too much movement, especially if your bed is small, can disturb your shuteye.

The solution? This one can be tricky to solve because if one acts out their dreams, it’s highly likely that they’re suffering from REM behavior disorder. You might need to seek a physician to help deal with the problem or live with it if you can. Getting a bigger bed can help, as it can put a good amount of space between you so you won’t be kicked or punched in the middle of the night.

They sprawl and take a lot of space.

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Possibly the most common reason of sleep disturbance is when one bed partner sprawls and the other’s left holding on to the bed for dear space. This can be a big problem if you’re not used to sleeping with someone and you need some open space to get comfortable. Your sprawling partner’s movements can also wake you up periodically during the night.

The solution? Try to know why they push towards your side of the bed. Sometimes they’re cold and want some body heat so they want to stick close to you. If you’re the type who likes some personal space in the night, this can be a problem as you’ll most likely move towards your edge of the bed. If this is the case, you can start your night in the center of the bed or move more to your bed partner’s side instead of near the edge of yours. This way, when they start pushing you to your side, you still have some room for breathing.

Another good solution is to get a bigger bed. If they sprawl and you’re in a tiny bed, you won’t have anywhere else to go, so opting for a more spacious bed is the best solution to this problem.

They’re not human.

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Some of us like to sleep with our pets and that can be the very reason why we can’t get quality sleep. Animals, especially big ones, can take up a lot of space in the bed and might even have some nocturnal habits that can disrupt your slumbers. Others are also mildly allergic to pet hair and dander and extended exposure during the night can trigger adverse reactions.

The solution? Learn how to sleep on a separate bed from your pet. While some experts say that sleeping with furry friends can help you relax and fall asleep easier, they can also be the very cause of your sleep disruption, so it’s better to just avoid the whole thing altogether just to be safe. Of course, if you insist on sleeping with your fur baby, it’s all up to you. But just know that they can be the very reason why you’re sleep deprived.

The bed is too small.

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According to BetterSleep.org, a full size bed (54″x75″ in standard Salem Bed sizing) only offers enough space for one person who is under 5 feet and 5 inches. This is a shocking revelation for most folks as some people feel like a full sized bed is already big enough for a couple. Some even sleep in one with their young kids.

It’s important to sleep in the right sized bed so you have enough room to feel comfortable. Some light sleepers get woken up by the slightest touch or movement in the bed, leaving them with interrupted zzz’s. Others, especially those who are quite tall, never find it comfortable when they’re limbs are stuck on their sides or dangling on the edges of the bed.

The solution? Get a bigger bed. Queen size beds are great for couples who like to sleep close to each other most of the time, but still have some space to sprawl should they want to. A king size is also great, especially if you and your bed partner are heavy set. This size will also let you sleep comfortably with a small kid quite comfortably.

Of course, all of these problems can also be solved by sleeping on a separate bed or bedroom, but in case that isn’t a feasible option for you, little changes and compromises might just do the trick. The most important thing is that you don’t live with sleep deprivation. You can sleep better if you know how to do adjust, so make sure to take the extra effort to do so.

 

Bedrooms You’ll Want to be In this Rainy Season

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The rainy season brings in a major bed weather to the country. It’s an excellent respite from our harsh summers, making us feel a bit cooler than the usual. So, if you’re the type who likes to coop up on your bedroom during this rainy season, here are a few nice interiors that will give you some major bedroom envy.

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Ah, if only we can tuck ourselves in!

Why Not Try Setting an Alarm for Your Bed Time to Get You In Bed Early?

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Waking up early is pretty easy. All you need to do is set an alarm and actually get up when it goes off. No matter how late you went to bed, waking up early is a breeze with an alarm clock. If you want to start to sleep better, the most difficult part is when you actually have to go to bed. A lot of us don’t climb in bed until it’s past ten, making us sleep late since we didn’t lie down early.

So, how do you actually fix this problem and get yourself to bed early? Set an alarm for when it’s time to start getting cozy. Sometimes, we just forget about the time in the evening, making us lose hours doing something useless instead of starting to wind down for bed. By setting a bedime alarm, we get to remind ourselves that it’s time for bed so we can already start our bedtime routines. When this alarm goes off, head to the bedroom, grab a book, and start winding your system down for a good night’s sleep.

Of course this requires willingness on your part to be successful, so make sure to actually want to improve your sleeping habit before you do this. Otherwise, it won’t work and you’ll just be annoyed with your alarm going off in the middle of the evening.